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[Elayne Edwards]

Hello Christy.  Now you know why so many of us CD s don’t tell our wives.  My first wife of 19 years knew . I told her before we were married. She was supportive but i had to promise never to tell any one else.  I lost he to cancer in 1996.  i remarried in 2009 . My present wife does not know so Im totally in the closet.   From the research i have done only about 15 % of CDs who tell their wives have a happy conclusion to the  ” coming Out”  . Most are unsuccessful.   For some reason women feel threatened , embarrassed, dis trustful  etc. when the husband comes out.  Most end n divorce or seperation . Or in you case your wife does not want to talk to you about it and deffinately will not participate.  Such is the nature of what we are. and what we do.   My suggestion to you is to find a good physc who specilizes n trans gendered council and see if you wife will go with you to get a a better understanding .  That would be my suggestion.