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Regarding the site, we put a lot of effort into keeping the drama at bay. People come here to learn, understand and progress. Having things go pear-shaped is not helpful and is upsetting to all.
I want to encourage you to complete your Profile page. It goes a long way for helping others understand your journey and where you are headed. That has the effect of helping to shape their responses. Over time, all threads will sink to the bottom of the pile as new ones are continually being added. However, the Profile page will always be readily accessible and can be updated at any time as you see fit.