You touched on a very important point. I, and many others, use the term “journey” in referring to our progress as transgender people. A journey is only partly about going from point A to point B. A journey often includes the unexpected (good and bad), the presentation of new information, coming upon others that may have a significant impact on you and vice-versa and furthering our knowledge of the world around us. When people get impatient about their progress, there’s a question that I often ask:
It took you XX years to get to this point (essentially ones age). What makes you think that you will understand who you are, what you need to do and pull together an action plan for going forward in the next few weeks?
I’ve asked this many times and I don’t think that there has ever been a response. When we consider major changes to our lives, those thoughts need to sit and steep for a while, like tea. There is no benefit to haste; in fact, it screws the process up. We need to bring these thoughts and considerations forward, let them sit for a while as we become comfortable with them and then integrate them into our lives. Shortchanging any part of the process is not helpful.
For me, I think the significance of my telling folks this is that I really don’t want them charge off at 90mph and run into a brick wall. That just doesn’t do them any good.
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