Abby, I feel your pain. My spouse and I have felt many of the same emotions as you and yours. Our relationship was faltering and it finally got to the point that coming out was more important to my mental health than continuing a dysfunctional marriage. It wasn’t courage, it was desperation. To my astonishment, she did not reject me and we began a long, hard, and painful journey to a new relationship. She is an incredibly strong woman! Our love has so far proved stronger than her loss of her husband. Our relationship is still a work in progress, but I am very, very hopeful that we will make it. It’s not the same relationship, but in many ways it is better because I am able to be fully honest about everything now.
Hang in there. Couples counseling is very important in addition to individual counseling for both of you.
-44x44.jpeg){kind=small}
