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Well, you are not the first and you won’t be the last to be confronted with this situation. Some couples can come to an understanding and some can’t. I don’t if there is any way to predict how things will progress.
Have you been working with a therapist? Many here have found a lot of value with this process. However, it is important to work with someone who is experienced with gender issues as everyone isn’t. Some have also taken the additional step of involving their partners; sometimes together and sometimes independently. Gender is a fairly complicated issue with a lot of moving parts. It is very hard for us to remain focused on the issues that need to be considered. A therapist can help to maintain that focus and work through the decisions that need to be addressed.
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