Thank you for your responses! They all help, and I am seeking therapy and I do want to join one of those support groups. I know that sex and gender are different, but it has been hard for me to untangle it all. I am humbled by the responses honestly. Thanks, DeeAnn for that information. This is the first time I have reached out to ask directly to any trans community. Talking to people in person seemed too scary.
Also I am glad folks are focusing on gender as separate from sexuality. I do see the difference in myself as well, but it all felt mixed up and confusing. I know labels are just words to help us understand ourselves, but I feel comfortable with “trans woman”. I also just think of myself as a woman. Sometimes I want to drop the labels altogether but it does help when I feel like I need clarity and self-love.