June 9, 2022 at 2:46 pm #131305
Remember that it is a process and not an overnight deal. It takes time to sort things out and then to settle in. Haste is not your friend in this situation; conscious thought is.
I would also suggest that the 4 1/2″ may be a bit over the top for now. Being uncomfortable and/or unsteady is an unwanted attention magnet…