Welcome! I love your name. I wanted to reach out because I’m also new here and not much further along coming out than you. I’m sorry about the wall between you and your wife, a similar situation between my wife and I caused me to put away any thoughts of my female identity in a box for a decade. I didn’t realize how hard that was for me until recently, and I had to talk to her about it.
If you ever want to talk about makeup and clothes or any other normal stuff feel free to DM me. I’m learning in the dark and it can be useful to have friends in those situations. If you ever want to talk about more serious stuff, I don’t shy from that as well.
Nice to meet you and welcome to the site.