Reply To: Purging: Something Every Girl Does Along the Way?

[Dana Munson]

Great topic!  I responded “no”, simply because I don’t know that it is a “necessary” thing. As a few other girls have noted here, it can depend a lot on circumstances.  There are many who are merely crossdressers (no interest in actually transitioning) who “purge” either because of guilt issues or because someone (parents, girlfriend, wife) forced it.  I purged maybe 3 times during the years when I “thought” I was simply a crossdresser. Once – the very first time – was out of guilt . . . or at least as a result of my resolve to “be a MAN.” That lasted a few years, and then I was dressing again. The other purges were “forced”: once because of a move (no way to pack up and move the girl stuff) and once to ameliorate a conflict with my wife (she later sort of mellowed on the subject and I was able to somewhat resume dressing).  At the time of  the last purge, I was just starting to come to terms with my actual feelings of wanting to be a woman, not just dress up as one. That purge held for a number of years (grew a beard as a dissuasion from even wanting to dress). Lost the beard a few years ago (too much grey).  Now there is no need to worry about further purging – all the male clothes are gone, my wife and I are “best girlfriends,” and I am just under 2 weeks away from my name AND GENDER MARKER being legally changed (“Dana Renee” and an “F”) by a judge of the California Superior Court.

• This reply was modified 1 year ago by Dana Munson.