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Names are funny things and there are MANY different thought processes behind what we do. As is true for so many things, there isn’t one road to town. It also implies that there is no “right” way and no”wrong” way.
As an example, I’ll share my thought process. Legally I am Donald. I have no interest in putting the effort into changing my documentation. For me, it just isn’t worth it. Anyway, that’s a discussion for another time.
So, for most people, Donna would seem logical but for some reason that never appealed to me. On the other hand, I did want a name that started with “D”. Hmmm. I thought about this for several weeks and finally inspiration struck. I’ve been a big motorsports fan since I was a child. My interest spans MANY different disciplines on ovals, permanent and temporary road circuits, dirt and pavement. If you name a touring series that runs in the US over the past 60 years, I’ve probably seen it somewhere.
What I remembered is that Mario Andretti’s wife was Dee Ann. “Was” in that she sadly passed away a few years ago. I took the space out as a way to discourage shortening it to “Dee”, but that has not been entirely successful.
Anyway, it is entirely subjective and not unlike why we like a particular article of clothing or a color or a pattern. There is no “why”, I think. It just “is”.
Is there a local trans community, and if so, are you connected to it? It is very easy for us to isolated and separated from other trans people. That isn’t a good thing. So, I would encourage you see what you can find. Here in the US, many LGBT centers have taken to doing online support and social groups. This is one of the few positive results from the pandemic and is a great help for those who don’t live close to a metropolitan area or have scheduling or transportation issues.
You can search for other members in your area by clicking on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.
I also encourage you to complete your Profile page. It helps other members to understand your situation and will always be readily available if you need to update it.