We are glad to have you and I hope that you will enjoy being here. The transgender community is a very broad spectrum and you will likely run across just about every situation that you can image here among the members.
What you mentioned about your situation covers so many here. And yes, it is appropriate to think of this as a journey. Haste is not your friend. There may be things to do along your journey, but there are also many things to understand and internalize. That takes time. Also, if we are 20, 30, 40 or whatever, it took that long to get to this point and for some of us even longer (including me!). Understanding our situation and what we need to do is not the work of a minute.
I suggest 2 things that will likely be useful:
Complete your Profile page. Responses to the questions provides a better understanding of where things sit for you and that is useful for other members. All threads will eventually sink to the bottom of the pile, but your Profile page will always be readily available and can be updated at any time if something changes.
You can search the member database by clicking on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.