This is actually easy, if you think about it. It seems like a difficult conundrum at first, I know.
Let me ask you this: is it ever good to hide important things about yourself from your spouse? Can you ever truly be in a trusting relationship if the other person doesn’t even know who you are?
Option 1) the status quo. This is obviously not where you want to be. It’s where you are, and if it was great, you wouldn’t be posting here.
Option 2) make changes.
If this is truly Who You Are, it’s a no-brainer. If you’re not sure yet Who You Are, then the status quo is fine.
