Reply To: Should I go to my local Gender Identity Clinic?

[Jill Lacey]

your wife will take you quite seriously regardless once she is told.  You attending will not change her having questions to be answered. It might help her in determining whether or not she can handle moving forward in an altered relationship. Remember, she never signed on for a threesome or a possible lesbian relationship.  I think its more important she learns about it from you and the educational part comes from you next followed by hopefully, over time, acceptance to some level. Your marriage will get tested for sure. For me the result was positive so why not you too. It sounds like you are attempting to soften the blow of telling her out of fear which is normal. Either way, she will have alot to learn about you.