Reply To: How do you manage your “other” side?

[Marg Produe]

Hi A. Marie,  I am an intersex person and it took me a long time to find a balance between my selves.  You can find more about me in my profile but long ago I realized that my old self was a part of me that would always be there.  I think of it as a co-joined twin that is always with me and we’ve made peace and don’t squabble.  I have sometimes explained it as an old long time job that I don’t do any more.  I’ve now got an entirely new career but people may still talk and inquire about my old job.  It doesn’t bother me but does sometimes need an explanation (that was then and this is now).  I have a history that’s always there.  It’s not bad.  Perhaps in order to know where you’re going you’ve got to know where you’ve been.  So, I’m not freaked when people use my legacy (dead) name, I just use it as a chance to educate.  I have no magic switch to go from one side to the other but it’s more like a fader that is constantly adjusting (mostly to the far feminine side) and that’s been just fine with me.  I hope this helps.  Marg

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