Katie:
As the saying goes: “You’re not the first, any you won’t be the last.”. That’s the reality of it. Many have been through just this kind of situation. That doesn’t make it easy, just common. It requires figuring out what sort of balance can be struck between you and your wife. It’s a different equation and solution for everyone.
I can understand the situation from your wife’s perspective. Early on there is no way that anyone can predict how things things are going to go. Uncertainty is always an issue.
Many have sought the assistance of a therapist in order to get a better understanding of their situation. But, finding someone with experience in gender issues is important.
