so here’s my Query girls .my sibling says he needs to protect his wife n family from me n us..from what? it’s not contagious. it’s all over the news so he can’t keep them from hearing words lgbt..what do they need protected from? no I’ve never been charged with any crimes n I regularly attend church n tell God thank you n I’m sorry for my transgressions
Interesting question, Missyjo.
My brother and his wife are Pentacostal and when the HIV epidemic struck in the 1980’s they banned my cousin from their house even though he was in a monogamous relationship and was the last person to engage in “unsafe sex” because of his own Christian beliefs.
They have ghosted me after I told them about Rowena which didn’t surprise me in the least. My sister, cousins, in-laws and other relatives have all been kind and supportive which is hardly surprising given the number of LBGTQ kids they have.
I have little doubt that my brother and SIL believe that they are “protecting their family” from the likes of me and my LBGTQ relatives which is the same misbegotten belief that your brother is expressing.
When I brought this matter up with my daughter her response was that they are ostracizing themselves at their own expense, “their loss, not ours” were her exact words. I share her sentiments. DeeAnn is right that it is a waste of time arguing with bigots.
If you are like me then you are much happier as Missyjo and that will be evident to those around you. Your happiness does not depend upon the approval/acceptance of those who believe in ignorant bigoted canards about transpeople.
If you want to try and make amends then just tell your brother that you still love him and forgive him for his transgressions against you. Use those exact words and then just leave it hanging there. Your words will echo in his head each time he recites the Lord’s Prayer. Don’t say anything else and don’t get into an argument, just let him know you will wait for him. Eventually he might adapt to the new reality where transpeople are accepted as being normal and if he doesn’t, he knows that you will always love him as your brother.
Kind regards, Rowena 👩🦳
