Hi Jennifer.
I enjoyed reading this post. It’s very similar to my story except I am 5 years older than you.
My wife of 57 years died in Oct 2021, and by Jan 2022 my fem persona Bobbie was demanding her time in my life. She wasn’t a complete surprise as I had been a lingerie CD from about age 10, and my wife’s acceptance of my daily nylon panty and nightgown had tempered my feminine urges.
As Bobbie, I’ve lost about 80 pounds, regularly wax to remove all body hair, and acquired all the trappings of woman of today needs. My lingerie collection was never going to be a problem. As I lost weight I went through a number outerwear purges replacing my tent sizes with clothes that fit. Shoes, other than skimpy flats, were a big problem because I need a size 14. I own 3 wigs, all a gray/black blend of different lengths.
Like you, I fight the beard problem. Though mine is white, it’s still pretty heavy. I fight the make up issue also, and I’m additionally handicapped by being blind in one eye. I just try to appear as a confident, mature woman – nothing flashy or trashy – and I’m getting along well.
I envy you and your get togethers. I’ve met with a few of us and I thought a friendship was developing, only to have them disappear without a farewell. So life is pretty lonely.
I do dress and go out in public as Bobbie for shopping, hair cuts, manicures, etc. but I need to be somewhat constrained because my son and his family live a few miles away. I haven’t come out to my kids yet. For that reason, I do need to retain some aspect of my male persona.
I usually spend a couple of the winter months in Florida, and that’s where Bobbie really enjoys her life.
Jennifer, I hope you continue to find joy in this life.
Bobbie
