Reply To: Being older as a transgender/cross dresser?

[Jennifer R]

Something I’ve kind of discovered as I slowly became more feminine, especially being more conscious of how I move, talk and interact with my straight friends, is that there are so many people, particularly older men, who actually are cross dressers, deep in the closet cross dressers, even a couple of my straight manly men  friends who I had never suspected.   It seems, and we see it here, that there are a lot of men who, because of social pressures and the need to make a living, have spent their entire lives in the closet, afraid to reveal themselves, and are now only coming out in their later years when their  situation allows it, death of a spouse, divorce, retirement, whatever it is that has now set them free from the old social chains.  Since I live alone and have a fairly private place, and a solid rule that everything that is said or happens here stays here, many of my friends now are married cross dressers, still in the closet, afraid their wives or bosses or coworkers or friends ever find out.    So we can get together here, they bring their things, or some even keep clothes and accessories here, dress up, chat, have some crackers, cheese and wine, talk about our (gasp) feelings, spend some girl time together, and then they can change back and return to their ?normal? lives.  I guess the point is, I think that 0.6% is actually quite low, maybe the number who will actually admit how they feel, but I’d bet if we count those still hiding (and I definitely don’t blame them), those who would never admit to anyone, even their best friend,  that they enjoy dressing feminine, that number is at least triple that.  And we also seem to have lots of ?straight? males, and the number is growing, who, married or not, seek out the company of a cross dresser.  I have a few, very close, male friends who I see regularly, every couple weeks.  Married, mature, hard working career men, under lots of stress, who like to refer to me as their western geisha girl.  Because it’s not about sex, it’s about allowing them to unwind, talk about things they can’t talk to their wives about, relax for awhile.  It seems that your average wife now days just isn’t paying enough attention to their husbands, these men are not getting what they need from their socially acceptable relationships, and I think that transexuals, bridging the worlds, provide a valuable service to society by being there for these men.  I don;’t care how many books they might read, no woman can ever understand a man like a woman who was once a man.  I believe we are blessed, so few of us are able to experience this life from both the male and female perspectives, and I think both men and women are finally figuring this out.

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