Thanks for the advice. Yes, my wife and I have both “therapy’d up” along with a counselor, and all have experience in gender issues.
I’m guessing there must be a trans community out here – plenty of LGBTQ organizations and I see there are some pretty high-up trans leaders in all sorts of places, but I’ve had some trouble finding an actual community. There was a local support group meeting I went to but was dismayed that it seemed like mostly mentally ill people (not that they aren’t legitimate too, just not really easily relatable and also a little scary to see as your first sense of community). Despite two trans women and a few trans men at work, no leads at the moment – I just keep getting sent lots of things to read 😂.
I’m going to keep trying though on the local community front! And yes – thanks for the wonderful tip about searching members by area!!