Reply To: Gender Dysphoria, maybe?

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Miriya Paris
SILVER

The bathroom thing, but why is it a thing?

First off not paying attention to what bathroom you are using is most likely not a dysphoria issue just one of paying attention to your surroundings. However not knowing or not paying attention to how you are presenting and going to a restroom based on feel is a sign you are more comfortable with who you are, and may or may not be a dysphoria thing. Most Trans folk get stuck up on their gender and are hyper-focused on it, right up till transition stealth happens. The fact you are so happy with self, and you are not concerned with gender is a good thing, this is almost an opposite of gender dysphoria witch is an extreme dissatisfaction with ones physical gender. Once you enter the wrong area and others give you “the look” I bet is where dysphoria might set in. Unfortunately we live in a society where for society to work it has to have rules, gender rules are in-place and have been in place for thousands of years, for a fringe group from few generations to think they know better is foolish, and to change the society rules just for them is just as foolish. It also does not mean the fringe group should be discounted or wiped out, this is also just as foolish as the ones who are on the fringe of society are always the ones who do the great deeds and change the world for the better. But enough of that, this is about you and bathrooms. I found that in some spots it is ‘A’okay to use a females bathroom when presenting, but in other locations it is not, in those times I just hold it in if I can. Just recently I was on vacation in Florida, I was at the pool deck, anyway the girls bathroom was being cleaned, and guess what a cis female (by presentation) was coming out of the guys restroom having just done her business. I did not care and neither did she. I recall the downtown Harrisburg club scene with me and my girl friends for a girls night out, the line for the girls restroom was a mile long so we went into the guys restroom. There was a troff and we both hiked up our skirts pulled it out and stood next to the line of astonished guys, we laughed for hours and hours after. Now I am not so rude anymore and have more dignity, but in that scene it was accepted, I think because we were all drunk guys included. However now in any location my spidey senses tell me it is not ok, I never tempt fate, also personally I try and avoid all public restrooms as they are dirty, and never sit on that seat, the hover is best, I grew up I so-pose.

My suggestion to you is keep being who you are, you are on the right track, continue to be happy and live your life as you want, just pay a bit closer attention to your surroundings.

 

Miriya

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