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Know that everyone’s situation, while similar in a number of ways, may have some very distinct differences. So, what I can do is pass along some thoughts and suggestion and you will need to sort out what fits, what’s possible, etc.
Since you live in a metropolitan area of several million people, I would think that there are some resources for transgender people. Social and/or support gatherings can be very helpful. Humans are social creatures, so being among our peers will almost always be helpful. The exchange of information and experiences is invaluable as well as the camaraderie between those who participate. In parallel, you may also search out Member Directory. Click on Social in the menu and then Member Directory. I would not be surprised if there are other members close by.
Also, I encourage you to complete your Profile page. It really helps other members to understand your situation better and may also reveal some common interests. I’ve had a number of conversations that started due to what someone noticed on my Profile page or what I saw on theirs.