Reply To: Feminine hands

[Claire D]

Unfortunately, unless a trans woman starts transition pre-pubescent, it’s a problem most of us face. Coping with the associated dysphoria varies from person to person. For me, delicate jewelry seems to help. A trans friend of mine prefers chunky jewelry and feels like it makes her hands seem more feminine. Every time I think about it though, I remember the scene from Sleepless in Seattle where Bill Pullman gives Meg Ryan the engagement ring and says “It was my mother’s. I had them size it down. She had really fat fingers.” Which reminds me of something my therapist said to me about just blaming it on genetics. Of course, I’m still waiting for the opportunity to slide “I survived testosterone poisoning” into conversation. Anyway, yeah, for me, keeping my nails manicured and wearing dainty jewelry helps. You just gotta find what works for you.