I chose Melanie after a woman who I lived with for a short time in the early 1990s. Although I hadn’t decided to transition back then, I have always had very strong feminine tendencies. She understood and we had many a long girly chat over wine and pizza. She let me borrow some of her clothes too.
I wanted to break away completely from my old male life but I don’t feel I can change my surname so as not to offend my family. I don’t want them thinking I am abandoning them.
When I eventually get my gender recognition ceryificate, I’ll change my name legally on my driving licence, cards and everything else. I’m striding forward as Melanie, female, and looking forward to my new life.