I came out to my assistant on FaceTime and asked she not spread around the information since I am not otherwise out at work as of yet. It’s strange, people don’t often seem to understand what is going on at time unless you are explicit, but if you would like to come out to others on your I would simply ask your friend to honor that.
there is always risk of gossip, and loss of friendship, but if they do not what to be friends with you as you are I imagine you will be better off in the long run finding out so you can move on. As far as the other friends, I imagine they will find out eventually anyway—would not be the best if your friend breached your confidence and was disrespectful, but we only can ask politely—it is up to others to be good human beings 🙂
Good luck to you 🙂