I feel for you so much, as this seems to be such an important crossroads on your journey. I think (personally) that although your wife and family are aware of your new life plan (new to them) – and may be mostly accepting of it – it could be better to wait until they come to you. I say this for two reasons:
1. It will allow them the opportunity to confirm their willingness to love you and be with you – no matter what – on their terms.
2. It may be more comfortable for them to meet Annette as a family in a more intimate and family-like setting.(Without extended family and other outside distractions.)
Just my thoughts, and I wish the very best for all of you!