Yes, intentional deception does occur, unfortunately, and the result can be disastrous. Very unpredictable things can happen.
I would also guess that someone might enter a situation and believe that they are OK with things and the reality sets in that it isn’t OK. The thought process would be: If you’re an XYZ, what does that make me? Might be a thought that folks can’t handle.
I don’t know if any of this is a reason to go bat-shit crazy, however. Does that mean that the degree of masculinity so weak in so many?