71 and 11/12ths…
My social transition is essentially complete, but I have no plans to medically transition. Fortunately I don’t have dysphoria, but what took me a long time to realize is that I have always been this amalgam of male and female energies and sensibilities. That’s why I identify as transgender non-binary.
Since I retired and relocated to the SoCal desert almost 5 years ago, the vast majority of people that I have met here only know DeeAnn. This extends across all of my volunteer, political and social activities. Very few know that Don exists. While I do leave my house as Don on occasion, it is fairly rare and usually due to expediency. Why get dressed, do makeup, etc. for a 20 minute trip to the drugstore? Makeup is expensive and DeeAnn never leaves home without it.
What it feels like is that I have settled into my groove, so to speak. Every now an then I get a bit anxious about going out, but it is usually due to going somewhere or doing something that hasn’t happened before. Typically it involves an extra trip to the bathroom before I go, but once I’m “there”, where ever “there” is, I’m OK.
DeeAnn and Don are essentially the same person. DeeAnn is not a personality that I adopt. The differences are very minor. DeeAnn is more touchy feely, initiates conversation and is sometimes a bit more forward. Not that Don does not do these things, but it comes down to a matter of frequency.
Anyway, I think the main thing is that we do what we need to do!