Sorry that this has been such a bumpy ride for you. However, it does illustrate how this intersection of a transgender person, family and the transitioning process can sometimes play out. It is unfortunate how things do work out, but often there is no way around it.
On the other hand, I think we can all understand how difficult it can be for our partners. Sadly, we run out of options and compromises. The result is that we must do what we need to do what will bring our lives into congruency. That doesn’t make it easy, but it does bring focus and resolve.
As always, feel free to take advantage of the resources here and the support of all of us…