Morning ladies, I hope you’re all keeping safe and happy 😃
A few months ago I thought of myself (as much as I gave it any thought at all) as a lifetime closet CD with a bit of a lingerie fetish. In March I came out to my wife as a CD (so far so good). Rather than calming my desires this has just opened up a growing flood of dysphoric feelings. I’m now 70-80% certain I want (need?) to start hormone therapy; the question is how do I bring my wife (partner of over 20 years) along? Also have any of you experienced an increase in your gender dysphoria after ‘coming out’? I read that this is quite common….
I would suggest seeing a therapist with experience in gender issues as I think the situation requires being better than “70% to 80% certain”. Also I think professional will help with your partner in terms of creditability…
Thanks DeeAnn, I forgot to say that I’d started seeing a gender therapist quite early on, when I was still at the ‘I’m a CD’ stage. She’s been enormously helpful.
I’m totally on board with the ‘take it slow’ mantra; so far we’re doing ok. Buuut…. m also aware that the current situation is not a normal one, we’re not going out, or meeting up with friends/family. The longer I go only dressing as my true self the harder it will be to go back to pretending. What life looks like ‘after’ (for me/us) is the next difficult convo to have with her.
take care and stay safe