It has been my observation that yours is a relatively common situation regarding the members here. I don’t have magic solutions and I don’t expect that there would be. Every situation is different and has its own set of subtleties and nuances.
However, what I will say is to be sure to put conscious thought into what you are going to do. It doesn’t do any good to get swept away by events over which you have no control. And yes, I know. Easier said than done…
So, I’m glad that you found us and I hope this will be a very good experience for you!