Hello DeeAnn. You mention compromise and finding one that everyone can live with. After almost 4 years of trying to find a compromise that my wife and I could both live with she has gone ahead with the divorce paperwork. I am moving into an apartment now.
Her idea of compromise was for me to dress in my room, which I explain to her is the same as staying in the closet. And that is impossible. My idea of compromise was not to dress as female when she and I went together into a public location but to dress androgynous, which is what I have to do at work anyway.
Compromise is hard to do when a person’s straight wife decides that she cannot be married to a trans female.