Gender is often a difficult issue to work through on many levels. It can also be very confusing as it challenges the way we have lived up to that point and it is also contradicts external expectations for us. The mind often seeks to make things easy on us as it wants to keep things simple and uncomplicated (in other words, maintain the status quo). Think about the games we play with ourselves when we have something difficult to do or a difficult decision to make. Our minds will think of all sorts of things to avoid doing what we need to do. Because of this, seeing a therapist experienced in gender issues can be very helpful.