I hear you loud and clear. I can totally relate with you. I just turned 43 this January and told myself the same thing. I have “come out” to people who don’t really understand why I am this way and tried to convince me that I don’t know myself. B$! If your like me, then you’ve probably already been on this path for a long time and you might have put yourself to the side to please everyone else around you. I have been doing this for so- long! When is it the “right” time? When should I put my needs before everyone else’s? -Well, the time is now. I think being on furlough gave me a lot of time to self actualize. During which, I decided to make healthier choices. Even though my parts don’t line up with the real me, I can put my mind in a good place. In my mind, I am already the man I want to be.