Glad that you found us and I hope it will be a very good experience for you.
I will ask that you do not use the phrase “only a crossdresser”. That implies that there is some sort of hierarchy at work, but there isn’t. Sadly, it works to create unnecessary divisions in the community when used by those who have transitioned.
Some some, dressing does seem to open the door to considering ones gender identity. I suspect that it was for me, but I also suspect that it is a relatively small subset of those who dress; my opinion anyway. Many here are in a similar situation where they are trying to figure out where their gender identity truly sits. It is not a simple exercise to do this and many enlist the help of therapists who are experienced in gender issues.
There was a time when people thought that having dysphoria was a prerequisite for being transgender. However, in more recent times, mental health professionals have come to the conclusion that this isn’t the case. What they have realized is that there are a number of other ways to be, such as non-binary (which is where I fit in), gender fluid, agender, etc.
I see that you are from Brantford. A bit over 20 years ago I made several visits there to Eagle Precision Technologies. They did some development work for us and we purchased some of their machinery. Small World! We have a search utility if you want to look for other members in Ontario. Click on Social in the menu and then Member Directory. That will put you at the search utility.
It would be helpful if you would complete your Profile page. It is an excellent way for people to understand your situation, your plans and your progress. You can also edit it at any time as situations change, whereas regular posts are not editable shortly after submitted.