Reply To: Are you “Transgender” or “Woman” (or “Man”)?

[Jemma Schumpert]

For me, this is more complicated than I ever imagined.  If I can transition, I will finish coming out to my family, a select group of friends and acquaintances, and then move on, both literally and figuratively.  Unfortunately, my past identity overseas, and as a Marine, could lead to some terrible consequences for several friends, family members, and a few comrades in arms.  As much as I would like to just put it out there on facebook or twitter or others, I have to consider the whole picture.  Equally, I just want to be ME.  Being ME means not being identified by my sexuality, genitalia, or other irrelevant norms.  I just want to be Jemma, the old lady next door.  Nothing more, nothing less.  If I develop deep relationships I will be honest and tell them my truth, but for all others…just Jemma.