Unraveling our gender identity is not the work of a minute. Our minds will throw up all sorts of irrelevant things and false flags in order to avoid stress, change and upheaval. Therefore, many suggest seeking a therapist with experience in gender issues to help sort things out.
I can’t say that I have any statistical data, but there are many elements of what you wrote that are similar to many in the trans community. For some, it seems to me that crossdressing can open the door to beginning to question ones gender identity, but I suspect that it is a relatively small percentage.
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