Reply To: Mum of 17yrs old trans son. Any advice to support him welcome.

[Jess Mor]

I am not young; however, I remember when I came out to my parents in the 1970’s. It was a different world back then and it was not pleasant. Fast forward many years. I have a wife I raised a son and I finally started coming unglued like a cheap suit. I can only offer you current experiences, but I am amazed at your support for your son. Just the support you are giving probably helps more than you know. I came out to my wife about two years ago and explained everything. We were married for 29 years when I dropped the bomb on her. We just celebrated our 31^st anniversary. She is trying to help me in my transition and asks questions I cannot answer. She is trying to understand and help through this journey and I get a lot of questions on how she can help. Oddly it made our marriage stronger, and we get along better than ever. I know who I am, and I have known for a long time I just can not explain everything as this is new to me and I do not have all the answers. The fact that you are helping your son be the man he wants to be is a huge bonus knowing that you have support of your family means a lot. The fact that he has found friends like him and his age to know he is not alone is also fantastic. As he understands more of who he is I am sure he will be able to explain how he feels and what he needs in this journey. I am sure there are a lot of people here that can elaborate on this better than I ever could but for me just having support from family and knowing I am not alone is a major help in this process.