- April 28, 2021 at 3:33 am #100835RikkiParticipant
Yes. Why… because part of my transgenderism is that I feel that an intimate personal interaction is supposed to mean something. This like…a woman perhaps feels. 25 expriences on both sides, as Goths might say so I speak with some license. Please comment.
- May 1, 2021 at 9:34 am #101061LilacsandRosesFREE
This is an interestung question as I knew my gender at a young age but my sexuality took me many years to figure out and understand. I knew that I was most certainly attracted to the masculine and as a young child I found certain men very attractive and had my childish fantasies about being married and bearing their children. My parents were obviously quite concerned having a boy child that spoke of a longing to be a wife and mother. I never experienced a physical/sexual attraction to females so in that regard I came to identify myself as a heterosexual woman. I had then, and still have today, very close and loving intimate relationships with my female friends but it is not at all physical, strictly platonic in nature. I had no sex life prior to SRS, my shame and embarrassment over my disfigured body was enough to make me avoid physical contact beyond kissing and hugging. After surgery I have experienced a physical union with a man but I never quite discovered the wow factor that my girlfriends talk about. Could be I haven’t met the right one who can make me experience fireworks, but as I get older I’m realizing that, truthfully speaking, I’m not really interested so much in sex as I am in close emotional bonding and companionship. I discovered this fact about myself when I became involved with a gentleman who had major health issues and was unable to engage in sexual activity. Unlike most men who are relentless in making you their next conquest, he showed me the greatest love and affection I had ever known up to that point and I found my time with him to be something I’ll never forget because I saw the fireworks without having to take it to a sexual level. Sadly he passed away after 6 months together but I’ll always remember him fondly for teaching me that authentic love between two people doesn’t always have to come down to two naked bodies in the throes of passion. It was freeing for me to know that I’m OK to not experience the heated sexual desire that others do; that we are each unique and distinct persons in our sexuality and its more than acceptable to live what is right for us as long as we live in peace and bring no harm or pain to others in the process.
I’m also encouraged by finding that other trans women I know also experience an asexual perspective in their relationships. I choose to fill that part of my life with my friends and family, all the things that bring joy and happiness to me life and I do not miss sexual intimacy at all.
I don’t know if that speaks to your question but that is my experience.
- April 28, 2021 at 2:29 pm #100903SharonFREE
Gender and sexuality are both spectrums. People are diverse.
People do get confused between sexuality and gender. I recently visited my parents and came out to them as transgender. I called a couple of days later, and my mother was worried about me not having a sex life all these years, as I am married to a woman. She didn’t initially understand that my gender has no relation to my sexuality. I was faking it as a cis hetrosexual male, when I was a transfeminine wannabe lesbian. Personally I like women, and love my wife.
Cis and trans people can be asexual or aromantic. I have colleagues at work who fall into that category, who I have met through the company LGBT group.
However sexuality can alter when people transition. Testosterone increases libido. Oestrogen reduces libido, so could make someone asexual. Oestrogen can also effect sexuality, making someone prefer male company.
- April 29, 2021 at 3:34 am #100929RikkiSILVER
Thanks Sharon and Dee Ann!
I love this site and all the people here. Where could one say what one is feeling about such subjects and receive objective replies?
I’m so glad to be a part of this community now. Thanks for letting me be included.
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- April 28, 2021 at 12:17 pm #100898DeeAnn HopingsAMBASSADOR
The bottom line is that trans people can have any sexuality that cis people have. We are similarly all over the map. Anyway, there is nothing unusual about your identity, but I suspect that it would not be well understood in the general populace…
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