Dating

[Breanna Leigh]

• Hi Ladies,

I’m not sure if this topic has been addressed yet or not but I would really appreciate anyone’s and everyone’s opinion on what is expected of a transitioning woman dating. I for one have always had a strong attraction for guys and in my day to day life rarely do I meet anyone, at least anyone I’m attracted to. So finally, I decided to try the internet dating thing, being 100% honest about myself, where I’m at both physically and mentally in my journey. I must say I was at first very surprised at the number of responses I received from guys, and even a few GG’s. And,  believe it or not, this has been my first ever experience with internet dating as I have been in a LTR for the last 20 years that is not surviving my transition. So, what have I learned about dating men on the internet so far……First, The majority of guys that message me are unable to send a face photo as I request in my ad, instead I get a photo of their penis, like it’s something I haven’t seen before. These guys are usually unable to say more than three words at a time, superficial, usually I will get a , “Hey” or “Hey you beautiful”. I would have to say about 80% of the guys that respond to my ad knock me off my feet with their shallow personalities. LoL When I have encouraged this type of guy to talk I find that they have NO respect for a transitioning woman and simply want me to perform the nasty anyways, (keeping it clean), NO Thanks. I have even been referred to as a “she male”, How I hate that term and how the porn industry portrays us!!!! The next type of guy I get has been the 50 something married man. Now, I’m not a home wrecker, I don’t want to get involved with anyone who’s married or has a girlfriend, but these guys tend to act very nice and they don’t always come clean about their living circumstances until they have picked me up and we are driving down the street. (Take me Home jerk!!),  Next, is the guy who isn’t comfortable with me in public. He says he’s open minded and doesn’t care if he’s seen with a trans woman, but he’s lieing!! (Take me home jerk!!) And last but not least is the 25 year old young man who has no communication skills, wants me to attach a ton of photos to my messages to him and probably was or still is a MaMa’s boy to even consider me as a potential girlfriend !!? I figured it out today, in the last 2 1/2 months I have gone on or met 10 different guys, all but 1 total losers!! One guy I met at a casino was a very nice, accepting guy who kept eye contact, showed no signs of being uncomfortable with me, kept our conversation going but he had more health problems than the CDC. So girls, any dating tips for a 58 yr old transitioning woman??!! My inbox is full, of Jerks!!! LoL Seems I could use all the help I can get!!!

 

[Anonymous]

Lol Brenda, I have the exact same experience with the guys and few GG’s I have met. Only the Trans people I have met had a 10% chance of being a decent human. Now I do use the internet sites for mostly meeting friends vs dates. My experience has been for internet usage off and on for the last 10 years or so to be like panning for gold. Once you toss out the trash, just about every nugget you find is too weak to be worth more than a few dollars.  It is a very rare thing to find someone worth anything.  It greatly depends on the web site you use: AFF, Transgender Date, and the like are mostly live porn sites for most people, so expect those disgusting penis photos, and vagina ones too.  I am really surprised at how many people expose them selfs online to the whole world to see.  Sites like Eharmony and such are not geared enough toward a Trans community and people there though, are more real, haven’t a clue or are phobic.  Your best bet is trying to make real connections on social sites, such as this one and then networking in your local community. When hanging out at dance halls, clubs, and other local places, I have found that the accepting people will actually talk to you and you can get more real with them.  However meeting that special someone is hard even for the non Trans people.  So do not lose heart keep panning away.

 

Miriya

[Anonymous]

Hello Hun

Tia here formerly Tracee, (LOOOOOONG Story). Girl you mean o say you have not conversed with Mr. generous … He’s the one who will promise you “HE” is wealthy and his T.G./T.S. wife of Girlfriend died of umpteen years of marriage and he wants to give you all the money it takes to transition you. ( I have found 4 of them.) He is confident and 2 the point and on his way to see you he ran into a problem with his american express/Credit card and needs 2 get to his hotel here in town. verification said he did have a reservation for that day. He is at a western union outlet and would you please help him. and a W/U phone # and name follows.

He/she uses a dual name like Terri or one used Daniel/Danny. I am always cautious so hello internet. called office and it was a women 3 times, and 1 poorly dressed homeless man. Western Union will answer all Qs and help you if you tell them your situation. different story about sending a media card to him/her for good friend policy yada yada yada

Rules of T.G./T.S. C/D. dating wisdom:

1) Rich people do not run out of money

2) Men spend money on women not Visa/Versa.

3) Meet in public places always, (No exceptions).

4) You are a woman in control of him. Always keep an edge or leg up.

5) make sure he uses a hotel with a lobby/front desk for safety and accountability.

I have had 3 awesome on-line dating experiences and 0 bad. But several / 11 felt bad half way into meeting of the initial meet and these numbers are for 2019 gurl.!.! Which leads to my last rule.

6) if something/anything does not feel right or you loose you up/edge for any reason. leave or bail.  It is MUCH better to contact him and reschedule than to become a statistic in/on a newspaper Hun and if he gets angry or violent, you are not around and you answered your own question you asked? No he/it wasn’t worth it.

Some are persistent and will even change their profile and feed you some more lies and try again. I had 1 guy try 3 times baby so be on the LQQK Out for same sentences, misspelled words and typing quirks. You must remain vigilant because as of 12 + years on these things one thing is for sure. The bad are getting smarter. And for every 1 good one you find, 10 or 12 will be bad as sure as I am a gurl.

GQQD Luck baby   Huggz Tia

[Breanna Leigh]

Thanks Girls,

and I know what you mean about panning for gold, LoL, I met a guy yesterday whom I had been talking to for a few weeks. He always asked me for pictures even after I sent him about a dozen G rated pics, I knew what he was asking for. We met at a Loves truck stop, he drives cross country and lives in his truck. Years ago I too drove cross country and felt very comfortable with the whole situation but when I got there I found a reasonably good looking man who spent our entire meeting talking about his estranged family and talk radio personalities. I didn’t spend 3 minutes talking about myself as he dominated the conversation and didn’t seem to care to know anything about me. When we talked via e-mail he showed no signs of being this type of person, and I really want to meet someone who can listen as well as talk. After an hour or so I left and went home and was very happy to get out of his truck, ( they are too small to move around comfortably and I sat in the passenger seat and not his bed while I was there)!!! So, Yes, dating can be a very frustrating experience!!

[Claudia Allister]

Hello, I dated with mi shemale  girlfriend on https://transporner.net that is not only an adult trans video site but there is also a dateing section.

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