Depression

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  • #33213
    Miriya Paris
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    I was driving the long commute to work yesterday and I had one of those fits of depression, you all know the ones that make you want to swerve and go over the mountain edge.  Anyway in an attempt to put it to paper and let it go, I wrote this.  Not sure if I need encouragement or just validation, but here it is.

    Miriya

     

    ps.

    I have a lovely photo on my phone that goes with this but I have no clue how to attach it.

     

     

     

    Like a child behind her mother’s skirt,

    I just peek out.

    I know I should be strong,

    I can not,

    for all I see scares me.

     

    I am scared.

     

    I stand in the abyss and am reduced to tears,

    nothing before me,

    behind me I do not like.

    All that I am just moves along,

    doomed to trudge a thousand years long.

     

    I am scared.

     

    My family will all leave me for what I am,

    no friends,

    no loved ones.

    Like dying but living,

    all is ashes and dust,

    blowing in the wind soon to be gone.

     

    I am scared.

     

    I tremble like a frozen flower in the morning dawn,

    I am scared to be scared.

    The hot sun burns me all day long,

    I am scared even to be strong.

     

    I am sacred.

     

    My life will be short,

    my body unclean,

    I have soiled my self so,

    that my soul will be doomed to repeat for eternity.

     

    I am scared.

     

    I look in the mirror and all I can see,

    is nothing, not even me.

    What I look like I have no clue,

    but I wish I could see me as I should.

     

    I am scared.

     

    In the end I ask my self many things,

    but all I hear is,

    “Is it okay?”

    “To say?”

     

    I am scared!

     

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    • #53681
      Angela Ramirez
      Participant

      FREE

      Hi Miriya,

      I understand being, sad, depressed, and scared. Especially scared. I teared up reading your poem. I’m new here and its difficult for me to write my thoughts down. I’ve read some of your posts and responses and think you are a very nice and thoughtful lady. Dont change. A lot of this is new to me as I recently started accepting myself, I dont have a lot of advice but I am a good listener and I’m always willing to help.

      Hugs,

      Angela

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    • #52414
      Lucinda Hawkins
      Participant

      FREE

      not sure if this fits in the category,  but i suffer with depression and anxiety, and panic attacks. take a pill for panic attacks but some times it seems to not work, for i still get them.   when i dress up i feel better and panic attack is not there! gee is it because i don’t dress up more then i should be doing?  i take one day at a time and do things i love to do while i am on this earth. i am medically retired from open heart surgery. have been since 2011. 8 years now and still here and seeing Dr on a regular basis. but with my panic attacks i just breath in and hold and blow out slowly. i deal with acid reflex also.  but i do believe for me dressing up is a relaxer for me with out a pill, helps me be human, happy and relaxed.   i also lost my mom and dad in 2013  68 days apart from each other but i have learned to deal with that to a point. i write on the web site of the place where they were shown, called weeks funnel home. i write on the post of each mom and dad on certain holidays and it seems to help. well that’s my side of my short history of depression and why i x dress

      • #52731
        Misty
        Participant

        yea hun there is a difference when dressed. I suffered most of my life with Social anxiety was very quiet and shy and actually had pain when I had to talk to others. When I started dressing full time as a woman I have noticed that I can talk without pain and hace actually become a chatty Cathy at times.

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        • #52739
          Stephanie Jones
          Participant

          FREE

          That is quite amazing, Misty. Finding yourself, in a very real sense.

           

          Stephanie xo

    • #33555
      Stephanie Jones
      Participant

      FREE

      Thanks Misty, a hug always help… I’ve got the Major Depressive Disorder, like youself, and PTSD from a car accident, though I feel the effects a lot less these days.

       

      And you’ve already helped by understanding. Thanks 🙂

       

      Steph xo

    • #33554
      Misty
      Participant

      Nice poetry and words all.  I suffer from Major Depressive Disorder and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome so can relate to bad feelings and bad times. Though I wish I could offer encouragement, I dont really have any but will offer you all hugs

    • #33545
      Stephanie Jones
      Participant

      FREE

      Thanks Miriya,

       

      For me it’s partly seasonal, partly processing recent losses. I did try your excercise, and it made me smile. I still feel like crap, but I made it in to the gym, which always helps.

       

      Cheers,

      Stephanie

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    • #33527
      Stephanie Jones
      Participant

      FREE

      I had to put pen to paper so to speak, and I’m hoping this is the place to do it. I’ve had to cut a long time friend out of my life recently, we’ve been friends for over 30 years but I can’t take him anymore.

      At the same time, our band has gone from Hiatus to the point where it feels like it’s falling apart. No one shows up, no one calls, no one is doing anything on our project.
      I don’t know if it’s the weather, the rainy days and the overcast, but I find myself thinking about all the people who I’ve lost to cancer recently…. I have to face the fact I’m in a funk. I’m trying to keep up on my guitar and going to the gym twice a week, but I’m running out of energy. I’m not sleeping well, and I have no doubt that’s not helping.
      I find myself thinking, what the heck am I doing with my life? Does anyone else have these times?
      Stephanie
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      • #33529
        Miriya Paris
        Participant

        SILVER

        Hmmm… Just saw your msg pop up in my email Stephanie.  As much as you are not sure if this is the right spot I am not sure if I am qualified to respond.   Crying out is okay, that is partially what this place is for.  And as people have done for me I will try and help in turn.  I would love to tell you a bunch of nice words and pretty words like it will all be good, you are strong and the such.  But those things are in you, for you, and only you can ultimately tell you those things.  However I can show you a little trick to help.  It is called the Secret Smile.

         

        Find a relaxing spot.

        Close your eyes.  (Once you have read all the steps of course)

        Do those deep breathes all the meditation folk talk about.

        Empty your mind of problems. (As best as you can)

        Imagine you are in your happy place.

        (Here is the secret)

        1) (Smile)

        Now, imagine and feel a relaxingness slowly flow up from your feet, up your legs, butt up the spine, as it reaches your arms it flows into them filling them with relaxation.  Up to your head and then back down to you tummy, where you store it in a big swirling ball.  Do this filling up of relaxation in your body at least 3 times.  Each time getting more and more relaxed, feeling heavy with the feeling.

        2) (Smile)

        Now try and remember a time when you were most happy.  I mean so happy you fell over with laughter, and could not stop. Take that feeling and do the same as relaxation. Fill your self up 3 times and store in your belly.

        3) (Smile)

        Here is the next part, remember a time when you felt super confident.  You just won the game or saved the day. Got that 110% on a test for school, played the perfect set.  Do the same fill you self up from toes to head then tummy.  3 times of course.

        4) (Smile)

        Lastly, rememberer a time of organism, right at the moment of ecstasy, your body filled with the mind blowing rapture. Fill your self up again with the feeling 3 times.

         

        Mix all of those feelings in your tummy.  Twirl them around some let them flow back out and fill you up some more.  Above all if you are not already, SMILE.

         

        This is what I call the secret smile.  It should make you feel like that sexy cool confident person we have all seen before.  Guess what that person is you. All you have to do is, smile.  😊😃😁

         

         

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    • #33454
      https://transgenderheaven.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/woman-b14-2.jpgAnonymous

      Miriya

      Your spirit and sole have much to do.                                                                   Taking care of the beauty that is you                                                                     You feel all dark and empty inside                                                                         The truth is, you’ve simply lost your stride

      Your sisters are reading your words of despair.                                                  Miriya please listen the world really does care.                                                  They beat you down and and make you feel so low.                                          To fill the emptiness of their status quo.

      Simply two steps forward and only one back.                                                      Before you know it your down the track.                                                               Let your good make you smile and bad make you strong                                 The whole world is listening  baby so you go on and sing your song.

      I shared your discomfort in my past and decided to do something about it. Now I want to say first not me or anyone can or should tell you what to do. Listen to how we dealt/deal with our people of  the planet “Hippocrates”

      I took the power my family had over me away.

      First I changed my name,  Last name too. I told myself My life, world, and my name.  Second I went on their social site and explained why.

      Third I changed my phone # and let them know that it was a privilege to have it as well as to know the real and new me and then stood back and watched.                                                                                                                         As I went on with life something strange happened. (There kids wanted in), and their friends, their face book numbers went down so they now make excuses as to why they are no longer on line. Miriya, there are 10 Xs more good people in the world than bad and if you let them, Both your inner and outer beauty will attract them an before you know it your life will become full and your next decisions in life will be YOUR choice of friends. (Choose wisely baby).                                                                                  Miriya waking up next to your best friends’ husband or taking a big chance and failing is what people like us feel bad about. Not Bully’s and Bigots. Give your life a chance before you start feeling bad about it.

      Much LUV and KiZZeZ baby                                                                                             Tracee Daniels

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      • #33457
        Miriya Paris
        Participant

        SILVER

        Tracee, Thank you ever so much for the kind words.  I enjoyed the poem.  It seems to me depression comes in waves.  Fear should not rule my life, neither should pure logic, but I am human so they do.  Most of mine were named in my verse.  On the other note, I am reminded by an old Star Trek quote, “The good of the many out way the good of the few or one.”.  Who am I to think my pain is any greater then an others?  I try real hard to do right by people, and if my enjoyment cause pain, why not suffer for their enjoyment. Of course I know the argument against what I just said.  Sometimes you have to be selfish.  Balance is the key, that I am not right now.  Hence the verse.

         

        Miriya

    • #33450

      Miriya,

      That was beautiful. I have the same type of feelings at times and I’ve often wondered if it is a result of not being able to fully feel like woman.  I can really empathize with how you feel and will be here if you need to chat or even vent. You can always come here for validation.

      xoxo

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    • #33441
      Michelle Larsen
      Participant

      FREE

      Depression is a weird thing; I think. I say  ‘I think’ because I’m not a medical professional. Anyway, because of the way I think; I think, and plan, and think, and plan (you get the picture), and then one day, the switch gets flipped, and I just go an execute my plan. I’ve been that way all my life, and I’ve been pretty successful. And then one day, I flipped the switch to get ‘Michelle’ rev’d up and going. And then the depressing things happened. No, not about actually becoming ‘Michelle’, as in fully and completely. But in the ‘having to wait on the medical profession’ depression. For heaven’s sake, no one knows me better than I do. I’m an engineer, and I have noddle this thing six ways from Sunday. So let’s get a move on it “medical folks’; it’s very simple. I want these two things removed, I want these two things ‘enhanced’, I want all of this stubbly mess gone, etc. The having to wait to get it all done seems to be the depressing part. Once I have attained my goal, I will be one happy little clam. Okay, thanks for listening. Hugs to all, Michelle

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    • #33363
      Stephanie Jones
      Participant

      FREE

      Miriya, I also struggle with depression at times. I highly recommend B12 shots, and for myself, 5-HTP has been of great value in the past. It is the pre-cursor of serotonin,  the feel good chemical in our brains. A naturopath could guide you better.

      Best of luck, you are not alone.

      Stephanie xo

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    • #33362
      Stephanie Jones
      Participant

      FREE

      “I am scared even to be strong.   I am sacred.   My life will be short…”

      A typo, I realized…. I expected an overturn of the theme where you become empowered.  A re-write in a better frame of mind, I would find most interesting.

       

      You have a gift for the written word, btw.

       

      Cheers ,

      Stephanie xo

      • #33372
        Miriya Paris
        Participant

        SILVER

        Thank you so much Stephanie 😊,  not sure if I call it a gift of words maybe one for gab or fits of emotion.

         

        Actually I edited it right after posting. But I do not have the privilege to edit the forums so the other version is saved elsewhere.

         

        Miriya

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        • #33373
          Stephanie Jones
          Participant

          FREE

          Good poetry is borne of perceptiveness and exactly as you say, fits of passion or emotion.

           

          I don’t think you recognize your gift.

           

          Cheers Luv,

          Stephanie xo

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    • #33277
      CC Webb
      Managing Ambassador

      MANAGING AMBASSADOR

      Mariya,

      There is beauty in your words for revealing the pain inside.  You are loved without condition by us here.  We understand the angst of loss and rejection.  You stared this journey to be your authentic self.  Embracing that is harder than one can imagine, but it is oh so necessary.  You are you and no one nor anything can change that.  Don’t let depression define and control you,  but better yet just know – You are Mariya and you have so much to live for.  I and the other moderators are here to talk to if you need a shoulder to lean on.

      Hugs, Managing Ambassador Cloe

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