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I’m new to this site, but would really like to talk to some other trans guys. I don’t have any trans friends that understand issues I go through the way trans people would. I have an issue about facial hair I would like to hear feedback on.
So, I’ve been on T for about 3 years now. I started growing facial hair pretty quick, soft stubble within the first few weeks of starting hormones. Nothing impressive like a thick fully beard, but some scruff. I am just now, after years, starting to grow enough hair on my lip that you can see a mustache. It’s been basically peach fuzz until now.
Now, I am super excited about this and just being able to grow facial hair at all makes me feel so… right. Something I can’t explain in words, but real trans men know what I mean. But my girlfriend doesn’t like my facial hair and always gets upset when I don’t shave it.
My girlfriend is so sweet and supportive, and she’s doesn’t mean anything by this. I know she just doesn’t prefer facial hair in general, on anyone. But it’s still difficult when she just won’t listen and understand why it means something to me.
I don’t even like to have a long beard or anything like that. I just feel like I need a bit of stubble on my face or I get disphoric and feel like I look like a lesbian. But she just doesn’t understand. She tells me ‘oh no you look like a guy with or without the facial hair. You don’t look anything like a girl even without the stubble. Etc’. But that’s not the way I feel, and she can’t seem to understand.
I wanted to talk to someone about this issue (and also to brag about my new mustache that’s starting to actually come in after so long, that I’m very excited and proud of. I don’t have anyone else to share it with really.) But thoughts and stories about how I should deal with this would be something I would happily listen to.
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