- October 15, 2023 at 11:26 am #141319
Hopefully some of you may already know me from Crossdresser Heaven 🙂 I don’t know why it’s taken me quite so long to register here as well, but there you go.
Anyway, I’m Ellie, a transgender girl from Norfolk in the UK. I recently came out to my Mum and one of my sisters, with very positive outcomes in both cases. I live full time en femme at home but am still in boy mode for work. I’m not quite sure how far along the path to transition I’ll go as yet, but I’m very much enjoying the journey. I’m very, very happy being me 🙂
I’m looking forward to getting to know you all, and possibly making some friends.
So … hello again!
- October 15, 2023 at 1:32 pm #141320Lauren MugnaiaAMBASSADOR
Welcome Ellie, to the “other side”, where many of us are definitely full time girls, and love discussing anything girly that may come to our minds. 🙂 Feel free to ask us, or tell us, anything and we’ll be more than happy to talk about it.
Ms. Lauren M
- October 15, 2023 at 1:53 pm #141323
Nice to meet up with you again here on the ‘other channel’. I guess you already know all about me from CDH. Looking forward to getting fully involved 🙂
- October 15, 2023 at 1:37 pm #141321Dana MunsonSILVER
Hello and welcome! It’s super that your mom and sister are supportive. Knowing that someone has your back can give you the courage to keep moving forward. Not sure where my transition would have gone had my family and circle of friends not given me a “thumbs up” when I came out. Best wishes for success!
- October 15, 2023 at 2:00 pm #141324
Thank you so much for your reply.
Currently it’s JUST my Mum and one of my sisters who know my truth, but they’re both super-supportive. My oldest sister, and in particular her husband, have a history of homophobic comments; I think it would be a stretch for them to understand that a trans crossdresser can nevertheless be straight.
It’s possible that they MIGHT surprise me, in time. At the moment though it’s probably prudent to keep Ellie under wraps for the foreseeable future as far as they’re concerned 🙂
- October 15, 2023 at 2:29 pm #141326Natalie GayFREE
Hi Ellie. Being happy is 100% of it! You got this.
- October 15, 2023 at 2:39 pm #141328
Oh … yay!
If being happy is 100% of it then I’m already there 🙂
Ellie is very cool with herself and her own identity. Other people might not be, so revealing her to the world is a slow and cautious process. I’m sure that other girls on here are only too familiar with that.
Let’s see what unfolds 🙂
- October 15, 2023 at 5:01 pm #141334DeeAnn HopingsAMBASSADOR
Glad to have you with us! I’m sure that you have noticed some familiar names on this site. I think that is, in part, a linkage to our past. For some, and I have no idea of how many, crossdressing can open doors such that ones true sensibilities shine through. However, I suspect that it isn’t a great percentage, but I don’t know of any hard data.
Also, note that every transgender person does not seek physical transition. Some of the reasons for this are:
- expense if not covered by health insurance
- 6+ weeks for recovery may not possible due to work or being a caregiver without backup
- External factors such as work environment, family environment or peer pressure
- Not a good risk for surgery for medical reasons.
- Not wishing to have invasive surgical procedures
There may be other reasons, but these are among the more common ones.
Contrary to the belief of the general populace, the number of trans people who have confirmation surgeries is relatively low. As I remember, a statistic that I saw a few years was only about 30%.
In my case, I have no intention of having any surgeries nor a course of HRT. I have never thought that I was born in the wrong body, but what I eventually realized was that I have always been this amalgam of genders. This shows up in various ways. I’m a retired mechanical engineer, yet my problem solving tends to be intuitive, followed by logic. For my peers it would be reversed. I have always had a sense of the esthetic and have always been sensitive to the emotions of others. I have no idea what is going on for people, but I know when something is “off” with a pretty high degree of accuracy. I’ve been a car person and a motorsports fan since childhood. I’ve even driven a few race cars in my time. However, it isn’t unusual for me to watch TV coverage of an F1 or IndyCar race while skimming Etsy, Poshmark or department store sites in search of silk blouses, heels, jewelry or other things. Some might think this behavior odd, but it is how things sit for me.
Anyway, many external to the community think that they “know”, but the reality is that they don’t know jacks++t.
- October 19, 2023 at 11:46 am #141402
Glad to see you here as well. I have haunted CDH and TGH simultaneously for some time. As a result, I had the opportunity to read about your coming out to mum and sister, and I am looking forward to learning more about you emergence in the weeks, months and years ahead!
- October 23, 2023 at 3:47 am #141460
If I crawl any further from my chrysalis you can be sure that I’ll give everyone an update 🙂
- November 3, 2023 at 8:41 am #141717
When I “crossed over” from defining myself as transgender rather than (or in addition to) being a CD, I felt a combination of a little fear and enormous exhilaration. I guess it was the product of finally accepting myself for the person I have always been.
Was that your experience too?
- November 3, 2023 at 9:27 am #141718
Short answer: yes.
Long answer: Yeeeeeeeeeesssssss.
I’ve always felt female. I guess, like many of the girls on this site, wearing women’s clothes has never felt like crossdressing to me; the clothes I wear (the clothes I’m wearing now) are simply ‘my clothes’.
Growing up I’d never heard the word ‘transgender’. It was only in recent years, as it started to get used more and more in the media, that I realised it was something that referred to me. That might sound like a bit of a belated realisation! Starting to actually apply the word to myself was, as you say, a bit scary at first; it sort of felt as though I was pigeonholing myself, at a time when I was still sorting out who I was.
I was completely in the closet until this summer. The first big step for me was joining CDH. Being able to chat with others, from all parts of the gender spectrum, was a huge emotional release for me. I started to feel much more comfortable about who I was. As you know, by late August I’d come out to Mum and one of my sisters (very happily, in both cases) about both the dressing and about being trans. It was terrifying in the run up, but totally exhilarating afterwards. I no longer had to hide who I was with either of them, and felt finally free to be me when I’m around them.
Even so, for some reason joining TGH felt like another big step … sort of me finally declaring “Here I am, World!” and nailing my colours to the mast for all to see.
Accepting myself for “the person I’ve always been”, as you put it, has taken a while … but I feel I’ve finally got there 🙂
- November 7, 2023 at 3:58 am #141802
Very well said, Ellie!
- October 19, 2023 at 2:52 pm #141403Marg ProdueFREE
Hi Again Ellie. It’s not like the River Styx. You can cross back and forth easily here. Have fun and enjoy your life. Hugs, Marg
- October 21, 2023 at 5:26 am #141440
You’re right … I’d been wondering why there wasn’t a ferryman.
I feel very reassured to see you here. I’ve arrived somewhere completely unfamiliar but there was a friend to greet me 🙂
Hugs as always
- October 21, 2023 at 7:52 pm #141449Marg ProdueFREE
Oh Ellie, Gerry and the Pacemakers actually use them now plus they’ve forgotten where they left the oars and Uber of Venice has taken over so you have to speak Italian. Happy almost Halloween or Guy Fawkes day and remember to wear a nonflammable costume and practice safe bonfire! Hugs, Marg
- October 20, 2023 at 3:50 am #141419KathyFREE
I’m Kathy, an older transgender woman from Missouri (USA). I was a CD (lived as a male) when actually a female almost all my life but retired 9 months ago and decided to transition fully with the help of hormones. I too am very happy being me, my true self. I’m a member of CDH if just for the forum posts and to find/meet local transitioning friends. Sometimes I wish a magic method existed to enable cross-posting to TGH from CDH, due to the great posts there.
- October 22, 2023 at 6:39 am #141452
Thank you for the welcome, Kathy!
I’m not sure if I’ll ever go down the hormones route, but things have been moving more quickly than anticipated for me recently, so who knows where my journey will take me? 🙂 I have the greatest of respect for anyone who transitions, whether emotionally, socially or physically; it takes such a huge amount of courage.
I agree that there are lots of wonderful forum posts and articles on both TGH and CDH. At the moment I spend a lot of time popping back and forth between them!
- October 20, 2023 at 5:55 am #141421Jill LaceyFREE
Hi Ellie and welcome over. I too am with both groups for no reason other than I enjoy the forums. Here of course however, is where my identity aligns most. I have considered myself trans for many years and coming out confirmed it. Hope you enjoy your new home here. Hugs, Jillleanne.
- October 21, 2023 at 5:21 am #141439
Thank you so much for the welcome! Forums are my thing, and the part of CDH where I hang out most. However, here I plan to sit back for a while and get a bit of a feel for the place before really diving in.
Joining Crossdresser Heaven at the beginning of July felt like a big step for me; signing up here, for some reason, also feels like a leap. I feel that I have a bit of listening to do before I actually start to speak too much!
- October 22, 2023 at 10:44 pm #141458Alexis WassermannMANAGING AMBASSADOR
Hi Ellie , welcome to the other side , glad to see you here as well
- October 23, 2023 at 10:56 am #141477
It’s really good to be here. I get to experience being a nervous newbie all over again.
- October 23, 2023 at 7:42 pm #141494
Hi Ellie,I too am on both sites.Its a great site,and the ladies here are wonderful.Enjoy your journey.
- October 24, 2023 at 4:22 am #141513
Thanks so much Michelle!
I have a lot to learn. I’m glad such places exist 🙂
- October 24, 2023 at 11:35 am #141520Alexandria (AKA Alex)CHAT CREW
Welcome Ellie, there are several girls here that you may know form CDH…me included lol. So glad it is good for you at home, that makes such a difference. The UK has its problems for us but there are several here that may offer information. Once again me too…as I am UK. Ask away whenever you need to. Hope your journey continues in such a positive way. With that smile…I think it just might!
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- October 25, 2023 at 5:45 am #141528
I loved your reply. It’s always good to hear from other UK girls.
Yes, all positive so far (which goes with the smile) but I’m not a particularly long way along on my journey yet. Being honest, I’ve just gone a few hundred yards; already I’m not entirely sure where I’m going. I’m peering ahead through thick fog and its difficult to work out what lies ahead. I might lose my nerve and hurry back to the safety of my house at any time.
Soooo … I may well need a little bit of advice and support in the future.
Is it okay if I send you a friend request? I really won’t be at all offended if you ignore it 🙂
- October 29, 2023 at 11:13 am #141626𝕋𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕚 𝔸𝕟𝕟𝕖🌸AMBASSADOR
Welcome to our TransGender Heaven (TGH) site: A Transgender Support Site. We are a wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.
You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.
Terri Anne, Ambassador
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- October 30, 2023 at 9:15 am #141653
Hi Terri Anne
Thank you for the welcome 🙂
- November 2, 2023 at 5:39 pm #141710Emily AltUNITY
I figured you’d make your way over here Ellie! Belated Welcome to TGH! Good to see your smiley face!
- November 3, 2023 at 3:22 am #141714
Awww … thanks Emily! I’m enjoying being here 🙂
I was very jealous of the wonderful time you all had at Palm Springs this Halloween. It looked like the most amazing fun – hopefully some more pictures will appear over on CDH.
I’m looking forward to hearing all about it from Natalie!
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