First time finding out I am intersexed

[Erica Nichols]

First time finding out I am intersexed was tough at first.I was 12 at the time when my parents finally told me.I remember them telling me they had something to tell me.Dad was sitting on the couch and mom was sitting in the recliner.I was about to go to my room and said they had to tell me.Looked at me and said I am intersexed.I was hit hard after being told at first.Parents did find help for me and learned well to cope with this.Went to see a specialist,everything changed.Specialist said I am biologically female also finding out I have the inner female reproductive parts.Decision was tough,let the estrogen take over after that.I learned well not to let this hold me back

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[DeeAnn Hopings]

Interesting Factoid:

Intersex people outnumber trans people almost 3:1 (1.6% versus .6%).

[Sarrah Wolfe]

What is the best way to ask an Intersex individual about their pronouns/identifiers without disrespecting them?

[DeeAnn Hopings]

Same as anyone else: Just Ask assuming it isn’t clear by some indicator (their name, how they refer to themselves, etc.). If they don’t understand that you are trying to be respectful, it isn’t your problem.

”What pronouns would you prefer that I use?”

Personally, I really don’t like it when people feel that they have preface a question, such as:

”Can I ask you something personal?”

“I have a question, but it’s OK if you don’t want to answer.”

GEEZ, just ask the freaking question already!?!?

[𝕋𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕚 𝔸𝕟𝕟𝕖🌸]

Hi Erica,

I have been going through my forums entries to see who I have missed sending a greeting.

So forgive me for being so late with me greeting

Welcome to our wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.

You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.
Terri Anne, Ambassador

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[DeeAnn Hopings]

Being intersex is an interesting situation in that the condition may be visible or it may not be. Visibly, differences in genitalia may be obvious but the condition may also exist only at the chromosomal level. There is also the issue of how gender identity comes into play. Fortunately we seem to be slowly moving away from the time when doctors and parents felt that they needed to intervene very early in the life of a child.

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