- August 3, 2023 at 9:03 pm #139955Amy MyersParticipant
Ladies, as a long time member of CDH (and the author of a number of aritcles) I thought I’d like to join this site as I seem to be finding myself wanting to be femme more and more. Though I still don’t mind my male self so I’m truly not sure if I belong here, but I joined to get a different perspective than is usually present on CDH.
CDH was a huge step forward for me about four + years ago, and it really was instrumental in me being able to find the way to stretch my feminine wings, as it were.
So to those I’ve known from CDH, I say Hi, and also a warm Hi to everyone else.
- August 27, 2023 at 3:01 am #140341Charlene KFREE
I too came from CDH as soon as the site was opened. I’ve known all my life I was more than simply a CDer. But CDH was and is so wonderful. I sm still a member there.
Being trans is complicated, but no doubt many here can help work out those complications.
- August 7, 2023 at 8:53 am #140055
Glad you could join us!
Regardless of whether or not you think you belong, you do. The thing to remember is that, in part, both sites exist in order to give people the space and the environment where they can sort out who they are, what’s important to them and, if needed, begin to plot a course for the future. But, owing to the focus of the two sites, the questions and responses will vary. Nothing wrong with that. It is just somewhat different in terms of perspective and goals.
So, a few things:
Please complete your Profile page as it is a great source of information other members. It helps us to better understand your situation, environment and goals. You may update your page at any time and it will always be readily available.
Isolation is a major issue in the trans community. It can be difficult to connect with our peers as people are often fearful of upsetting their personal situations. But, the flip side of that is that we are social creatures and value the support and camaraderie of others. We have a number of members in Canada and it might be useful to search the Member Directory to see who is in your area. Click on Social in the menu and then Member Directory.
And, surprisingly, I have been to Brantford several times, but it has been a while. I worked for, and retired from, Corning Inc. Back in the late 90’s I worked on a project to make complete catalytic converters for small engines to be used in motorcycles, scooters, ATV’s, stationary equipment, etc. Functionally it is the same as catalytic converters used on cars only much smaller. The major difference was that instead of just supplying the ceramic substrate (the core, as it were), we would supply a complete converter ready to be welded into the exhaust system of the vehicle.
There is a company in Brantford: Eagle Precision Technologies. They build tube end forming equipment that is used for expanding, shrinking or reshaping the ends of metal tubing. We bought their machinery to manufacture the small converters and I made a number of visits to their facility. I guess it is a bit of a small world sometimes!
So, I trust that being here will be helpful for your journey!
- August 8, 2023 at 8:05 am #140081
Thank you Dee Ann for the nice welcoming to TGH. I have been past the place you mention, Eagle Precision, very cool that there is a connection there!
Just to expand on my reasons for being here, as I said I do sometimes feel as though I’m sliding more towards being trans and I want to read, perhaps chat, and ask some questions of the community here.
Loneliness isn’t too much of a problem for me, as through my journey as a crossdresser I’ve met so many others and now have some fully trans ladies as good friends. It was through CDH a couple of people reached out to me and introduced me to a local CD/TG social group, that was approaching 5 years ago now. Then last year I was elected as President of the same group. Now I organize events for the membership, and like any other group there is a small core of active members, and many I don’t see.
What I’ve found particularly rewarding is giving “new girls” the opportunity to meet others for the first time.
I thank everyone else for their kind words of welcome!
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- August 8, 2023 at 8:27 am #140082
It is a small world! It is also part of the reason that I encourage members to complete their Profile page. Often information comes out like what we have just discussed. It is a reminder that we are often connected in ways that we would not have expected. One of the engineers that we worked with at Eagle was originally from the UK and was a big Formula 1 fan, as am I. We would have some great conversations about who was doing well, who was surprising and who was disappointing based on the previous events. Other things come into play. I’ve met someone her who currently lives in my home town that I left in 1990. My work took me to 9 countries and 2 others for personal trips. There are people here from some of those countries. I’ve met other engineers here as well as others with whom I share personal interests such as mid-century architecture, computer building, etc. It just goes to reinforce the notion the we are everywhere and doing everything.
The thing is that being transgender is only one part of our lives. We are not 2 dimensional beings, although that is how many prefer to see us. It is always very important to be that we be seen as anyone else.
VERY impressed by your work with your local group! That is more important than most people think. People need to know that there are many others like themselves. It creates datapoints: If they can do XYZ, then I can too! That’s a great gift to be able to give to others.
So, Continued Success!
- September 1, 2023 at 8:30 am #140436
Thanks again, DeeAnn. I’ve benefited so much from the help the local group as well as CDH so in a way I’m paying it forward trying to help out other new ones who are either alone or confused, which is what I still am!
The group needed some new leadership and I was asked if I could step into the role. I’ve done other leadership positions in different volunteer groups in the past so that part of it isn’t so much a of a challenge. It’s people’s fear which is so different. The last Pub Night, which is held near the “Village” (LGBTQ) in downtown Toronto as I was walking back to my car I saw someone coming towards me who certainly looked like a trans person, then greeted me by name! I do post a cover picture of myself.
She was sitting in her car for the last hour+ and only then got up the courage to come in! She also told me this was the fifth time she’d come out, only to have fear get the better of her and then drive back home without meeting us!
Fortunately the ice has now been broken and hopefully she will come out more often!
- September 2, 2023 at 2:14 am #140447
That demonstrates the degree to which fear can be absolutely paralyzing. We become stuck in whatever our circumstances are. Fortunately some are able to put the fear aside and move forward in spite of still carrying a fair amount of that fear. But the more we act against the fear, the easier it becomes. Anyway, I hope that person will be back.
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- August 5, 2023 at 11:29 am #140002𝕋𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕚 𝔸𝕟𝕟𝕖🌸AMBASSADOR
Welcome to our TransGender Heaven (TGH) site: A Transgender Support Site. We are a wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.
You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.
Terri Anne, Ambassador
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- August 4, 2023 at 12:05 pm #139972Anonymous
Hi Amy My name is Helen from UK I am a woman in name only. I wont bore you with the details but I am pleased to meet you and welcome to this lovely site. I read you want to be a woman I hope you will be successful so I wish good luck.
Love Helen xx
- August 4, 2023 at 7:10 am #139961BarbFREE
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- August 4, 2023 at 10:19 am #139969Natalie GayFREE
Years ago, a now retired gender therapist told us that crossdressing is part of the group under the umbrella of transgenderism. I’m good with that.
I’ve lived as a non binary female for about 20 years now, and I act more like a crossdresser than a “trans woman”. I’m not taking hormones any more, I don’t care to have SRS, or if I have breasts, I quit wearing bras (too hot here). But I’m finishing up electrolysis, I plan to have 90% of my body done. (I’m a retired hospice nurse, and have had to shave a lot of my female patients, don’t want anyone to have to do that for me).
I do enjoy having a female hairdo, I quit having the gray covered. All my shoes and clothes are feminine, my family doesn’t expect me to wear men’s clothes to visit them. Almost all my friends are gals, and I play in an all girl ukulele band. I’m livin’ the dream, as they say.
I hope you find plenty of support here.
- September 2, 2023 at 3:25 pm #140449
That’s cool you are in a girl band! I’ve just recently started performing at a LGBTQ bar and hours drive from home (that’s the closest) on keyboard. That has been a bit of a dream of mine for some time, to perform as Amy.
So now you can really call me a Drag Queen, though I’m not done up like so many are.
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