Hello from Austin, Texas

[Jessica Maddison]

Jessica ..you have made a Positive Step… by Joining US at TGH…
Stay Strong…Be Your True Self. .
We are Here For You…
With Love Jessica M. 💕

[Chrissy Malloy]

Hi Jessica

I feel your pain, the dysphoria is relentless. If we lived in a vacuum it would make transition so much easier but with people depending on you it makes it much harder. It’s difficult not to feel selfish for wanting what’s best for you. I’m pretty much in the same boat but I haven’t told anyone that I would like to transition. I hope you find  a way to have happiness and contentment in your life

Chrissy

[Natalie Gay]

Isn’t it amazing how many of us find out about this when we’re married to a cisgendered mate. And isn’t it interesting that some of them don’t love us enough to support our decision to be ourselves.
I was fortunate enough to be single when I discovered this, that I had gender dysphoria. It was only after 12 years of transition that I met my current spouse, and no one could be more supportive.
I wonder what it is that these non supportive spouses find so frightening.
Best wishes, Jessica.

[DeeAnn Hopings]

Jessica:

Glad you could join us!

The set of circumstances that you describe is a classic “between a rock and a hard place” situation for transgender people. Unfortunately many think that our gender identity and sexual orientation are things that are changeable. They are not. While it is not conclusive yet, studies of brain scans have shown some interesting things. The brains of cis-gender people are similar to the target gender for transgender people. Indications suggest that this occurs before birth. If this does graduate to proven fact, conversion therapy will finally be shown to be useless.

I will freely admit that I have no experience with this situation. However, let me ask a question. Are there any ways where you can get to experience Jessica in small doses? I’m working on the theory that “half a loaf is better than none“. Also, since you live in Austin, I would do an online search for transgender resources in your area. Many LGBT centers are still offering support groups and social groups online.

Finally, thanks for completing your Profile page! I often have to remind people to do that. Remember that it will always be available and can be updated at any time.

[Christy Bradford]

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Hi Austin Texas.

I read your post with interest I can sympathise with you I to am married just coming up to our 45th year we’re still together despite my wife knowing about Christy although she knows my delemia is she never wants to talk to me about it. Which makes me more depressed what with the dysphoria plus I also have multiple sclerosis which i rely heavily on my wife for support so I feel I have to be careful about rocking the boat to much.

I hope you work things out with your wife

All the best

Christy from the UK

[Barb]

Sorry to read this, Jessica.

I had a heart-to-heart with my wife a couple of years ago. She’s still with me and gets my feminine desires. I was never one to exude masculinity anyway, even when riding my cruiser! LOL!!

Remember the old biker saying:

Therapy is expensive,

Wind is cheap!

:Barb
(Yammy Roadliner, 1854 cc!!)

[Jessica BikerChick]

A couple of new updates since my last post. First I just looked at the notes from my last annual physical and my primary care doctor listed the diagnosis code of “Transsexualism [F64.0].” I was very happy and a bit surprised to see this. I believe having this in black & white will be a start of good things when dealing with my insurance company! Next is that I have decided to return to therapy with a focus on my gender dysphoria. I know with my persistent and on-going gender dysphoria I would very much benefit from this. I have a strong feeling that I also should initiate HRT. Happily, I have access to the Crane Center just up the road. My obstacle continues to be my wife who steadfastly opposes any change… 🙁

[𝕋𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕚 𝔸𝕟𝕟𝕖🌸]

Hello Jessica,

Please excuse me – way behind on my greetings..

Welcome to our wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.

You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.
Terri Anne, Ambassador

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