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Hello Joanne,
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Hi Joanne. So proud of you, you look amazing. so encouraging
Joanne:
Glad to have you with us. I am always saddened and somewhat frustrated when people transition and leave the community. Many thanks to you for sticking with us!
So, to exercise that experience, what piece of advice would you pass along to those who are in the process of sorting out their gender identity and to those who are in the process of transitioning?
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I think when people finish transitioning they just want to focus on getting on with the rest of their lives. I know from my experience, all of the people that I went through transition with have moved on and we no longer keep in touch. However, I know they would always be there for me if I ever needed help. Having people around you in the early days is important and I found the online community really supportive.
It takes time to transition. I see so many people rushing to get everything done as quickly as possible and I was also like that in the beginning. I would say take your time and enjoy the process of becoming the real you. Itโs a once in a lifetime experience and when I look back I actually miss the transition process. ย There are always going to be some bumps on the way but be patient because itโs not a sprint to the finish. Allow the hormones to do their work and your mind to adjust to what is happening.
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From my observation, and anecdotally, when people leave, they tend to stay gone. They give little or nothing back in spite of the support that they received from the community. What is lost is the fact that moving forward as a community takes every voice that we can muster.
It also doesnโt help our public perception. What tends to stick in peopleโs minds are the folks who are in trouble and have to do illegal things like sex work to survive or Caitlyn Jenner. Both are distortions of the reality. There are a number of trans folks who are doing OK. Clearly not as many as there should be, but the world seems to cling to the sensational, regardless of how it may leave a lot to be desired statistically.
I retired nearly 6 years ago and moved to the desert. I hold offices in 5 organizations and am a member of 3 others. I have no desire to put the effort into legally changing my name, but DeeAnn is the person of record in all cases. Being visible and being part of the community has value to me, so thatโs why I do what I do.
I agree with you completely about haste. I have often reminded folks that it is not a sprint. It is a marathon. Further, some things just need time to settle in. Like tea, it needs to steep. I also remind people to periodically stop and look at what has been accomplished. It can be 3 months, 6 months or whatever. When weโre in the middle of โstuffโ it is hard to get a sense of the progress that has been made. Similarly, with our kids, we donโt notice their day to day growth. However, it becomes very obvious to someone how hasnโt seen them for a while. Having a sense of progress fuels us.
I appreciate your wisdom and I think others will alsoโฆ
Hi Joanne,
<p style=”text-align: left;”>it’s nice to meet you sweetie:)ย and welcome!ย If you would like to make friends well I’m available:)ย I am also looking to meet friendly people on here.ย Plz feel free to contact me at your convenience and I look forward to hearing from you.</p>
Warmly,ย Lexie๐
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