- January 31, 2022 at 10:51 am #125644
- February 21, 2022 at 2:00 am #127092
I’m writing to you from the southern U.S. I have long looked for someone in the U.K. to correspond with about life there as the U.K. is my favorite place in the world; I follow events there via the BBC app and BBC TV news. I’m trans-asexual and don’t plan to transition but openly acknowledge my trans. If this is not your cup of tea then apologies; otherwise, I hope to hear from you.
Best regards. Rikki
- February 27, 2022 at 3:37 pm #127506
Hi Rikki, what makes you like the UK?
- February 27, 2022 at 10:17 pm #127521
Thanks for your reply. It begins with my time at University; the phrase I’ve heard is ” a classical education”. I think that the fact that I’m of Irish ancestry, although I ID as Jewish, contributes. I like the civility of the place; true, one doesn’t have to read much to see traces of homo/transphobia
- February 5, 2022 at 9:24 am #126126Lexie WattieFREE
<p style=”text-align: left;”>it’s nice to meet you sweetie:) and welcome! If you would like to make friends well I’m available:) I am also looking to meet friendly people on here. Plz feel free to contact me at your convenience and I look forward to hearing from you.</p>
- February 4, 2022 at 7:08 pm #126077DeeAnn HopingsAMBASSADOR
Glad to have you with us. I am always saddened and somewhat frustrated when people transition and leave the community. Many thanks to you for sticking with us!
So, to exercise that experience, what piece of advice would you pass along to those who are in the process of sorting out their gender identity and to those who are in the process of transitioning?
Thanks for doing your Profile page! Remember that you can update it at any time if you need to.
- February 4, 2022 at 9:35 pm #126082
I think when people finish transitioning they just want to focus on getting on with the rest of their lives. I know from my experience, all of the people that I went through transition with have moved on and we no longer keep in touch. However, I know they would always be there for me if I ever needed help. Having people around you in the early days is important and I found the online community really supportive.
It takes time to transition. I see so many people rushing to get everything done as quickly as possible and I was also like that in the beginning. I would say take your time and enjoy the process of becoming the real you. It’s a once in a lifetime experience and when I look back I actually miss the transition process. There are always going to be some bumps on the way but be patient because it’s not a sprint to the finish. Allow the hormones to do their work and your mind to adjust to what is happening.
- February 4, 2022 at 10:07 pm #126084DeeAnn HopingsAMBASSADOR
From my observation, and anecdotally, when people leave, they tend to stay gone. They give little or nothing back in spite of the support that they received from the community. What is lost is the fact that moving forward as a community takes every voice that we can muster.
It also doesn’t help our public perception. What tends to stick in people’s minds are the folks who are in trouble and have to do illegal things like sex work to survive or Caitlyn Jenner. Both are distortions of the reality. There are a number of trans folks who are doing OK. Clearly not as many as there should be, but the world seems to cling to the sensational, regardless of how it may leave a lot to be desired statistically.
I retired nearly 6 years ago and moved to the desert. I hold offices in 5 organizations and am a member of 3 others. I have no desire to put the effort into legally changing my name, but DeeAnn is the person of record in all cases. Being visible and being part of the community has value to me, so that’s why I do what I do.
I agree with you completely about haste. I have often reminded folks that it is not a sprint. It is a marathon. Further, some things just need time to settle in. Like tea, it needs to steep. I also remind people to periodically stop and look at what has been accomplished. It can be 3 months, 6 months or whatever. When we’re in the middle of “stuff” it is hard to get a sense of the progress that has been made. Similarly, with our kids, we don’t notice their day to day growth. However, it becomes very obvious to someone how hasn’t seen them for a while. Having a sense of progress fuels us.
I appreciate your wisdom and I think others will also…
- February 4, 2022 at 6:37 pm #126062Abby ScottFREE
Consider yourself to have just made a new friend Joanne. Welcome. 🤗🙆♀️
- February 4, 2022 at 9:36 pm #126083
Hi Abby, thank you for the warm welcome x
- January 31, 2022 at 1:21 pm #125708
- January 31, 2022 at 12:27 pm #125691
- January 31, 2022 at 10:58 am #125647Terri AnneAMBASSADOR
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The Warmth, Compaasion and Hospitality of our community members can be found throughout the site.
You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here,
Terri Anne, Ambassador
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