- January 20, 2019 at 11:21 am #31761
I am seriously considering cosmetic surgery, after a period of becoming a gym rat. A few nice touches to accentuate what I have.
I am out to one sister and 2 friends at this point, but it is still important to me to be comfortable as my guy self.
Does anyone else feel that way, and where does that land me on the spectrum. Just trying to find my compass.
- February 7, 2019 at 5:15 am #32176Chris LandwerParticipantFREE
I also understand. I think it’s a major step to be out there and vulnerable but if you do what is comfortable and take baby steps ( there is no hurry) you may gain some confidence. I an a little fem inside and want to experiment dressing. I cannot tell anyone accept those that are here. I think you should do what makes you feel good.
- February 7, 2019 at 8:25 am #32180
~Yeah, It Seems That You’re
Already A Few Steps Ahead
Of Me… Hm,Hm,Hmph! : )
~Oh` Would You Look At This,
I Never Really Looked At The
Texting Box For The List Of
Different Changes I Can Make-
Enough Of That__…=
~Thank You For Responding,
All Of The Information Helps To
Eliminate All Of The Isolation…!
- February 6, 2019 at 11:17 am #32168
I agree Seniko…. I am confidant that my important relationships would survive, but…
- February 6, 2019 at 12:30 pm #32169
~Yeah, And As You Know,
Everybody Is In A Different
~I Really Don’t Wanna Wait
Until Everyone Has Passed
On Before I Could Actually
Fulfill Any Considerations,
I’m Thinking, Should I Run-
Away/Re-Locate, It’s Not Fair
And I Know That It Is Said:
Nobody Ever Said That Life
Was Going To Be Fair…
~I Been Consumed With The
Thought Of It For Over 30yrs.
And Have Always Suppressed
The Way I Felt An Have Stayed
Terminator On The Outside-
(Thwarting All Suspicion)
~It’s Weird, I’ll Look Down
At Myself And See One Thing
And Then Look Up Into The
Mirror And See Someone Else
That Doesn’t Match And Wakes
Up Reality As To Who I Am And
How The World Sees Me, Like
The Difference Is So Much That
If I Told Somebody, They Would
Actually Think That I Was Lying
And Messing With Them…
You Gotta Love That Bruce Willis
Movie, The People Could Experience
Their Life Through A SURROGATE!
- February 7, 2019 at 4:19 am #32175STEVEN DEWParticipantFREE
I know how you feel. Im that way.the life i live is totally not the way i feel inside. Every one knows me as a very manly man i drive a tractor trailer truck for a living and bild cars for people on the side.but at night when im by my self the woman inside me comes out and i live it .my kids grandbabies and parents could never know the real me.ive thought about moving away so i could be more of whom i am .
- February 7, 2019 at 8:02 am #32179
~200+ Years From Now-
Surely It Will Be Different.
~I Went As Far As Gaining
Weight To Hide 30 Years Ago,
(And Now I’m Like, Aye, What
Did I Do?) ~ Sometimes I Say:
Why Couldn’t I Have Been Born
That Way, Then Their Would Be
No Issues Of Acceptance, (People
Are So Critical And Aggressive!)
~That Was A Very Honest Thing
To Say In Your Post, I Appreciate
Your Position, And Your Commit-
Ment, It Feels Good To Hear You…
~Thank You! : )
- February 5, 2019 at 4:52 pm #32156
~I Don’t Think That It’s As Easy
As Some People Are Saying That
It Is, Some Are More Flamboyant
Than Others, Which Leads Everyone
On A Bit, And So It’s No Real Surprise
When They Expose How They Had
Always Felt Internally More Outwardly…
I Envy Ones Who
Don’t Answer To
Others, And Can
Just Be Themselves!
- January 20, 2019 at 5:22 pm #31776Tami CParticipant
I can relate to the importance of remaining “comfortable as my guy self”. I am out to my older brother (I have three more younger plus a sister, Mom and Dad are passed) and a small handful of friends. Although for myself I have a slightly different perspective, it’s not so much important to me that I can still operate as a male as it is that I just am not ready for the world to know about Tami and THAT’S OKAY. That rascal fear. Someday soon, my compass is pointing due Tami! 🙂
Love to you
- January 20, 2019 at 1:35 pm #31772
- January 20, 2019 at 1:18 pm #31769Xelyn CraftParticipantBRONZE
Sounds to me like you are genderfluid, able to move along the spectrum freely. I don’t think you have to come out as male or female, but it might be good to be honest with people and tell them that you are both or can be either depending on how you feel in a moment.
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- January 20, 2019 at 11:23 am #31762
The response has been 100% acceptance thus far, with some discomfort, but I have never dressed and just hung out with them.
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