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Hello,
This is the first time I have done something like this so I apologize if this comes of a bit awkwardly. I’m a 22M and I’m here to explore my gender identity. As I’m still questioning things please just refer to me as J to start off.
While I never felt any strong feelings towards being a man, I always would end up wondering what life would be like as a woman but those feelings tended to be short lived as I felt I would only be able to healthy do it for a few days. And to test this I did a bit of crossdressing in hiding when I was in my teens, but never fully came to any conclusions and just tried to shrug it off as a phase.
I don’t know to what extent this means for me but I’m hoping that with interacting with different people I may be able to find my answer. I look forward to talking with you. Thank you for your time and sorry if this was a bit long.
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J:
Happy to have you with us!
For many, sorting out our gender identity is not the work of a minute. Probably the major thing is knowing that such thoughts are in direct opposition to what society continues to tell us. Like a salmon, we are swimming upstream and the decisions that we ultimately make may have a significant effect on our mental health, family life, employment, etc. As the phrase goes, “It’s Complicated!”.
The suggestion about seeking professional help can really be quite beneficial. The problem is that we are dealing in things for which we have no experience. Also, the tendency is that our minds will work to reduce tension and stress by avoiding thinking about the possibility of significant changes in our lives. Unfortunately, that does not lead us to making decisions.
What a therapist does is ask questions to get us to think about what we should be thinking about and help keep us focused. Ultimately our chances of moving forward are greatly improved. And yes, it is important to find a therapist who has experience with patients regarding gender issues. Not everyone has this background.
Clearly, the path that we are on is not an easy one, but it is the one that we have been given. It is up to us to do the best that we can with what we have to work with.
As always, remember that we don’t “become”. We “are”, from the beginning, but sometimes we just need to discover that.
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It’s never easy finding our true self , be open and honest with yourself , talk about what is bottle up inside even if it’s hard to find those right words , over time they will come as you grow
Alexis
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Hello J,
Welcome to our TransGender Heaven (TGH) site: A Transgender Support Site. We are a wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.
You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.
Glad you are here. Looking forward to seeing you on the site.
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Welcome! It sounds as though you may not find happiness until you fulfill at least some of your desires. I recommend seeking a gender therapist and sign up for a few sessions. Some health insurance plans will pay for this.
There are tests online you can take to find out where you are on the gender spectrum. We are all male and female, no one is all one or the other.
You shouldn’t ever feel bad about crossdressing. I do it fulltime, and am 50/50 male/female.
Good luck!
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Hi J
Welcome to TGH.
This is a safe and supportive space in which to explore your gender identity. Although I’ve only been a member here for a few weeks I’ve been a member of the sister site, Crossdresser Heaven, for several months now. I’m sure that you’ll get a lot out of interacting with everyone, just as I have.
I’ve just looked at the member directory; TGH has 378 members in Arizona, so it’s always possible that someone geographically close to you will get in touch with information about local support groups. That would be a great place to start while you’re still questioning who you are.
Meanwhile, there’s loads to explore. Take your time, settle in, and find your way around 🙂
Hugs
Ellie x
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