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      Hi Jae. I’m no counselor so you need to take what I say with a grain of salt and decide if it’s even a direction you want to go. Having said that you say you’re feeling lost. I think it’s hard to figure out who you are sometimes. The feelings are conflicting and you’ve lived as one gender and there’s a part of that that has a certain normalcy to it even if it isn’t. In fact it may feel normal on one side and not normal on the other and hence comes confusion. Then you consider female and that seems like a very good fit and yet you still have a part of you that’s saying that’s not who I am because I’ve grown up as a male. It’s a big leap. Hence more confusion. It seems to me, and I’ve done a little bit of this myself, that digging deep into yourself might be a good way to go. We just build up layers and layers, walls and walls, fences and fences around ourselves and even around our innermost selves. We can actually make it very difficult to access ourselves and who we really are. But going deep and digging dee, trying to focus on places in your life where you felt feminine, when you felt pulled in that way, when you felt the struggle going on might help you to get at it better and alleviate the confusion so that in the end you come to a realization of who you really are and are able to end the confusion. That you are here suggests that you already have a pretty strong sense that you are female but something else is going on within you that might be causing you to struggle. It seems to me that if you can find what that is that might help you find resolution. A counselor could no doubt better tell you more about such things or even if that’s the right track and maybe even tell you I’m nuts 😂 but having said that it seems to me that might be something to consider. 🤗❤️🙆‍♀️

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      John Ward
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      Thank you so much for you encouragement 💗

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      Terri Anne
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      Hello Jae,

      Welcome to our wonderful, accepting, loving, helpful community where you can be safe and be yourself.

      You can read about the knowledge and experiances of others on a similar path by reading articles and in the forums and chatting in chat rooms.
      My hope is that you will become comfortable here and make many new friends.

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    • #128322

      Welcome Jae, I just recently came out and can truly say that I wish I had done so long ago.  I am working on the transition plans to to living and working at my job fulltime as a woman. I have received nothing but genuine support and admiration from the staff where I work – almost 95% women. I have never felt so free in my entire life, so my words to you are…  Be You and don’t let anything get in your way!

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    • #128321

      Hello Jae , I can say this much about being Transgender for myself – if a person looks back on there childhood like myself I was very lost also – once a doctor labels a person ticking off the M or F box , that’s the life your forced into – you don’t even know until after 3 years old much anything about why everybody says ” good girl ” or ” good boy ”  it’s not an issue initially  because genitalia what you have at birth  is not understood by your self because your too young to understand the social issues naturally leaning towards your true gender   , all you know is what socially they associate to you physically and you learn ” well that’s who I am ” a boy or a girl – a person has a sense of self – your brain runs the body – it’s like a Windows basic programming trying to run a physical Apple mechanical platform – ” it doesn’t work ” if your brain is wired at birth Female , the two don’t match each other – every child of course is always curious about the opposite physical sex and want to see and know the differences – if you look back of your thinking as a child your natural desires and wants , you already know your true gender whether you see a psychologist or not but it’s nice to have confirmation that your not loosing your mind with the fear of social change – you have to do what’s right for yourself despite the social back lash that does and will be difficult no matter what – be your self  and happy – ” I did and FK’m all ” It’s not a dirty thing to be female and I personally love it – XO – Krystal G , BC , Canada

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