Mother withheld my social security and insurance info, forced me to come out


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    Jon M

    My mother refused to let me have access to my social security number, insurance information, and medical records that I needed to safely afford treatment at a local clinic. I was 18, and was going to the planned parenthood for hormone therapy, but needed insurance to cover it. She forced me to come out to my father, cornering me, otherwise she refused to even let me know what my social security number was at all. Is this ok? I’m genuinely not sure and can’t figure out if she should have been able to keep that from me as an adult, even if I was still on their insurance. She also told me that he would be told about it by the provider and find out. Is that true? Any insight is greatly appreciated, as there are plenty of things I am unsure about in this situation. She would not let me see my records at all.

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      Carly Holloway

      Hi, Jon, and welcome to TGH.  I’m glad you found us.   Yours is a sad, harsh story, and I wish you weren’t going through it

      I agree with Michelle.  If you are over 18, they can’t legally do that.  And the providers can only release information to others if you have give signed permission.   If you have already done so, you have the ability to take away the written permission.

      I hope you return to the site and we these messages.   And I join Michelle in asking you to join us in the chat room….you will find that there are lots of people to give support and guidance.

      Again, welcome to heaven


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        Thanks for the support!

        Really? This is one of the tamer things they’ve put me through…

        I would absolutely love to join the chat!

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      Michelle Lawson

      Jon, as an adult, I can say with pretty much 100% certainty that withholding Social Security information from another person is not legal. If you were under 18, that might be different. As for the medical issues, again, and especially as an adult, I’m pretty darn sure that your medical providers cannot provide medical information about you to anyone without your consent.

      We say you pop in to chat. Please pop in again and maybe we can lend you some support. Michelle

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      • #130030

        Thank you so much! yikes. She told me that there was no way to keep them form telling him. I guess that’s just another reason not to trust them.

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